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If you could be friends IRL with a TV or movie personality/celebrity, who would it be and why? 

What do you admire about this person?

Do you think you could be more like this person, or do you want your spouse to be like this person?

I would like to be friends with Ina Garten (The Barefoot Contessa from the Food Network).  I admire her a lot--she's beautiful, well-read, has a fabulously interesting past (she used to write policy for the White House, she's lived all over the world, it's crazy!), and she cooks food that I would like to eat. 

One trait of hers I would *love* to develop is how when people come to her house, it's clean and inviting.  She frequently has friends over just for a drink or dinner and they just light up when she lets them in the door.  I know that might be because they're on TV, but I think a large part of it is Ina's ability to make the person feel welcome and wanted. 

My husband doesn't put *any* pressure on me to be any certain way except for happy (my mood tends to set the mood of the home), but the times when he has come home and I've had dinner ready and the house warm, clean, and cozy...it's like I can almost see the frustrations of work slide off his back when he steps in the door.  His whole outlook on life seems to change when he comes home to a happy house, good food, and a relaxed wife.  I wish I could be like that more than once every few months.


wow, this got wordy, sorry!

Don't put too much pressure on yourself, though!! It's HARD to be a full-time mom, have dinner ready every night, and have the house sparkling as well, and then after all that be really happy. I'm soo glad I don't live in the 50s, 'cause I just don't think I could ever do all that.

I keep my house clean ((90% of the time), but reasonable - everything isn't sparkling, but I try to keep it cheery, mostly because one of my favorite memories was coming home from school to an open and sunny house, and I don't really want all the windows open if the place is a pigsty. I don't cook, though =/ I'd like to have Ina as a friend so she could cook some of those delicious meals for me! Just kidding.

Honestly, though, in the three things you said (happy house, good food, relaxed wife), I think probably the thing that makes all the stresses slide away and makes Andy happiest, in all honesty, is probably the last bit: the relaxed wife. I've noticed that when I'm happier, Owen is MUCH happier - like you said, it sets the mood for the house! So don't put too much pressure on yourself to do ALL THREE (cooking, cleaing, and relaxing). If you're happy, it's contagious, and it's hard NOT to be happy when you're around someone that's genuinely happy. So just strive to be happy, I say!

I think no matter how equal the family claims to be, no matter how much of a feminist supporter the husband is, when it comes right down to it, ALL men like to come home to a clean house, a hot meal, a smiling wife.

I try to be that wife all the time - but I work hard not to end up resentful. We often come home together and he sits down to read the paper or watch television while I walk in the door and immediately start to make dinner. I think you can be like that more than once a month - but just to be simple about it. Instead of going nuts cleaning the house, just do a 10 minute sweep to pick up clutter. Instead of making a big meal when you are tired, just have warm and bubbling canned soup and a sandwich. Instead of trying to be relaxed and put together when you've had a day from hell, just be genuinely glad to see him.

I dunno about friends, but one guy I admire is Detective Stabler on Law and Order SVU. He's the kind of guy I'd hope a daughter would marry - a tough guy with a soft heart for his family, an upright man with integrity that does the right thing, a guy that takes his guy-ness seriously and uses it for good. (I know it's just a character, not a real person, but oh well!)
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