What do you admire about this person?
Do you think you could be more like this person, or do you want your spouse to be like this person?
I would like to be friends with Ina Garten (The Barefoot Contessa from the Food Network). I admire her a lot--she's beautiful, well-read, has a fabulously interesting past (she used to write policy for the White House, she's lived all over the world, it's crazy!), and she cooks food that I would like to eat.
One trait of hers I would *love* to develop is how when people come to her house, it's clean and inviting. She frequently has friends over just for a drink or dinner and they just light up when she lets them in the door. I know that might be because they're on TV, but I think a large part of it is Ina's ability to make the person feel welcome and wanted.
My husband doesn't put *any* pressure on me to be any certain way except for happy (my mood tends to set the mood of the home), but the times when he has come home and I've had dinner ready and the house warm, clean, and cozy...it's like I can almost see the frustrations of work slide off his back when he steps in the door. His whole outlook on life seems to change when he comes home to a happy house, good food, and a relaxed wife. I wish I could be like that more than once every few months.